Scott Bordow: Here is one approach to grow up: Meet and marry a woman whose life makes your concerns irrelevant. Pat Murphy has not become Mr. Rogers. He’s still noisy, humorous, profane, and obstinate, and his mouth occasionally gets ahead of his mind. But the edge is gone.
It’s a classic American love story.
Here’s one way to mature: meet and marry a woman whose life renders your concerns irrelevant.
Pat Murphy has not become Mr. Rogers. He’s still noisy, humorous, profane, and obstinate, and his mouth occasionally gets ahead of his mind.
But the edge is gone. Murphy no longer shouts and curses at reporters over something they wrote. He is not at odds with Athletic Director Lisa Love. He does not stay awake at night, agonising over every loss.
It took 50 years, but he’s finally learnt to enjoy life and be satisfied with himself.
“I’ve gotten rid of all the dark stuff,” Murphy stated. “I am at ease. I’ve never had my stomach feel so in harmony with the cosmos, if I can
Metaphysical?
This comes from a person who once asked Love at an athletic department meeting if the “L” on her shirt stood for Laverne, as in the TV show Laverne & Shirley.
“I have said dumb things. “I’ve done stupid things,” Murphy admitted. “I have been defensive and immature. Lisa and I probably had a bad connection because I didn’t appreciate her. I’ve learned who she is, and I genuinely like her.”
Murphy’s evolution—if you can call it that—did not occur overnight. Being a single father to his son, Kai, who will turn nine in August, pushed him to become more responsible. But he was still wound tight, determined to prove himself.